The Journey to Self Discovery

Faced with failure, how do you respond? All of us fall short of our targets from time to time. Some people are resilient enough to wallow in it briefly and bounce out of it, but others let it defeat them. Here are some ‘’dos’’ and ‘’don’ts’’ of regaining your self-confidence after a defeat: *Increase your expectations of yourself Your failure has you feeling like you are not good enough to achieve your goal. Establish a higher bar for yourself, even if it scares you. Remember,  you will always get what you tolerate . If your expectations of yourself are low, your results will be of low quality.       *Set a new realistic short-term goal Set a goal that is realistic to get you back on track. Get an easy win under your belt. *Surround yourself with people who are already doing it right Find someone that has what you want, ask them how they did it, then do it yourself. *Don’t use negative self-talk ...

  We have the ability to create our own reality. For the most part, we can look at a situation and see the good or we can look at the same situation and choose to see the bad. Often times the lens we use to view what’s happening is filtered by our thoughts. Positive thoughts create more positive circumstances. Alternatively, negative thoughts contribute to feelings of dissatisfaction and disappointment. Therefore, changing our negative thoughts is essential to achieve happiness and peace. The following are the most common negative thinking behaviors. Becoming aware of these is essential to transforming negative thoughts into positive beliefs. Stay away from “all-or-nothing” thinking. When we slip into “all-or-nothing” thinking we see our circumstances as either black or white with not much in between. By shifting to someplace in the gray, a fresh perspective is created that helps us to realize more options do exist. To lead an emotionally healthy life we need to have ba...

To everything in life, there’s always a negative and a positive perspective and nothing is "wrong" or "right". When you see a glass on your table filled halfway with water, you could say, “That glass is half empty, why don’t I pour out the water.” or,  “That glass is half full, why don’t I fill it up.” Check this out, that from the first question, you’re actually making the condition of the glass worse. That’s the negative view. From the second question, you’re making the glass feel a whole lot better with itself. That’s the positive perspective. We choose to see things negatively because of our emotions.  Well, not me, now!   Many people tend to only look at the bad aspects of their lives and dwell on failures. But we learn a lot from failure, much more than  we ever learn from success. The emotion you feel at any given time determines your perspective at that time. Behind every negative thought  or incident that occurs, there is a lesson behind ...