The Journey to Self Discovery

Trauma generates emotions, and unless we process these emotions at the time the trauma occurs, they become stuck in our mind and body. Instead of healing from the wounding event, the trauma stays in our body as energy in our unconscious, affecting our life until we uncover it and process it out.  The healthy flow and processing of distressing emotions, such as anger, sadness, shame, and fear, is essential to healing from childhood trauma as an adult.  The healthiest response to childhood emotional wounds is also the rarest: When the trauma first occurs, we recognize the violation it has caused to our sense of self, feel the natural emotions that follow, and then realize that the violation doesn’t say anything about us personally — and thus we don’t make negative meaning of it and can let it go. But because emotions like anger and sadness are painful — and because crying or confronting others is often not socially acceptable — this proc...

If we’re interested in living the freedom that we know is possible, we're asked to look at all the ways we keep ourselves separate from it.  And for some of us, one of those ways is to live in regret of our past actions. Here’s the scenario. Whether you intended to or not, you’ve done something that hurt someone else or yourself, and you just can’t let yourself off the hook. You can’t stop repeating the story of what you think you did wrong in your mind, convincing yourself that you’re damaged and unworthy. It’s like you’ve created a movie of what happened, and you keep pushing play—over and over. And the images of what you did and the choices you made recycle in your mind nonstop. If this is what’s happening to you, something needs to change for you to come to peace. If you continue to punish yourself and believe that you’re bad to the core, you’ll live in this shame forever. So how to release yourself from the prison of feeling bad about your past...

To everything in life, there’s always a negative and a positive perspective and nothing is "wrong" or "right". When you see a glass on your table filled halfway with water, you could say, “That glass is half empty, why don’t I pour out the water.” or,  “That glass is half full, why don’t I fill it up.” Check this out, that from the first question, you’re actually making the condition of the glass worse. That’s the negative view. From the second question, you’re making the glass feel a whole lot better with itself. That’s the positive perspective. We choose to see things negatively because of our emotions.  Well, not me, now!   Many people tend to only look at the bad aspects of their lives and dwell on failures. But we learn a lot from failure, much more than  we ever learn from success. The emotion you feel at any given time determines your perspective at that time. Behind every negative thought  or incident that occurs, there is a lesson behind ...